Concept
Empathy vs sympathy
Feeling *with* rather than *for*; the second creates distance while looking like closeness. Requires locating the feeling in yourself, which is why it costs something and why it is downstream of your own practice.
Where it appears
Treated in
- Part Two — How to PracticePresenceA conversation is two people each building a model of the other while being modelled themselves — why an accurate reading lands as an attack until the other person can tell you're actually there.